Need to have the sex toy conversation?
We have some tips and tricks to pave the way!
Love adult toys? Only use them when your partner is not around? What about sharing is caring? Discover ways to have that chat with your sex/life partner! We open up the conversation around introducing sex toys into your marriage or fave relationship.
Adult Toys And Your Relationship
While it’s definitely true that adult toys are a much more mainstream interest now than at any other time in history, some people still haven’t had the pleasure. There are lots of reasons why sex toys may not be something you feel comfortable about introducing into the bedroom outside of masturbation, so let’s have a look at a few.
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Having The Talk
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Feel Them Out
Once you have gauged your partner’s initial reaction, this will lead naturally to further discussions. If they are flat out squeamish or really anti, be sure not to push. It’s okay to ask them why they don’t find the idea of using a sex toy appealing; it’s not okay to force your ideas about adult toys onto another person. You can certainly ask if it would be okay to chat about it another time, and you can express that it’s fun for you to include adult toys in your sex play. If your partner seems interested or eager, you could start by looking at an adult toy site together. You could point out things you already use or like, and things you want to try, and they could do the same. Once you have found some common ground and decided to play together, it’s a good idea to make a date to do it.
Take It Slow & Check-In
Even after a partner has consented to have a sex toy join you in the room, it’s a good idea to take it slow – especially if they are inexperienced. Using unobtrusive toys may be a better start; discreet vibrators or cock rings are a great jumping-off point for newbies. You can lay them on the bed next to you while you stimulate each other as you normally would, then ask again if it’s okay to use the adult toy. Communicate as you go, say, ‘I am going to touch myself with the vibrator and then I want to touch you with it’. Be specific about where you are putting things, let them know when you are going to move them, and don’t penetrate anyone with an adult toy without express permission.
Adult toys such as vibrators, butt plugs and pleasure cups are really simple to use and can add a little spice to couples’ playtime. Pretty much any adult toy can be a couple’s sex toy, it’s only limited by your imagination. If you are hankering to gently give it a go with your significant other, good luck, you got this!
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